My dear friend Catherine Behan, the Law of Attraction Love Coach, wrote this article to specifically for this blog, to contribute to abundance and prosperity in your love life:

“…and then Lori, that whore, sat on his lap and wrapped her skanky arms around him and he did absolutely nothing…nothing! He just sat there like the ass that he is and did nothing.”

I heard every word. I was three tables over in Starbucks and I couldn’t help but overhear. I glanced over and I was surprised to see the person I was listening to was nearing 50. I couldn’t help but wonder if she realized how she was coming across.

If you are single and there are no prospects in sight, you are in the perfect position to take on a personal project. Ladies, we must learn to control what is coming out of our mouths. It is the perfect homework for control freaks every where.

Starting tomorrow, begin each day with this intention at the forefront of your mind: I intend to write my complaints down in detail instead of speaking them out loud. There are two steps here, one, acknowledge the things that are bugging you and two, write them down.

Don’t get trapped in the artificial positivity that goes along with Law of Attraction thinking. Let yourself be bugged. Write it down and then if you are a drama diva like me, create a burning ceremony and do it up right! Even if you just throw it away, at least it is coming up out of you and on to something neutral like a blank piece of paper. I like to use different colors of pens and sometimes I write conversationally as if an inner buddy is answering back.

Now Lori might actually be a lady of the evening but even if she is, do we need to talk about it? What if the words we speak radiate from us as surely as radio waves? Personally, that is exactly what I think happens. Wouldn’t it behoove us to choose carefully what we are broadcasting?

So, let’s get together here, ladies, and make some serious decisions. Yes, I am sure that people have been low down and no good including ex-boyfriends, ex-friends and ex-bosses, but retelling the story again and again and again doesn’t serve you. As long as you are in between guys, why not practice cutting complaining out of your day to day routine.

A pastor in the midwest started an anti-complaining campaign that has had a major impact. His suggestion is to put a rubber bracelet on one wrist and then switch wrists every time you catch yourself complaining. The goal is to wear the bracelet on the same wrist for thirty days.

Great idea! I love the plan. I would just add one element. Complain once a day on paper. Let yourself be ticked off at the inconveniences that frustrate you, the inefficiency that annoys you, the disrespect that angers you and the carelessness that infuriates you. What ever it is, write it out, every word.

Your opportunties for great dates and new connections will be dramatically impacted by this change in your routine. Most feel a change in a week. You can expect to be treated differently in subtle ways and you will attract small things like coupons from area restaraunts, invitations, movie passes, things like that.

Can fine dining be far behind? Getting used to noticing the small but certain signs that our luck is changing is a necessary step. You want to be with someone permanently. You want someone around to fix a few things and to snuggle with on the couch. He wants that too and he is looking for you. Whining and complaining, no matter how deserving the offending party has been, is simply unattractive to a lot of decent guys.

Are you up for the challenge? When you are sipping a great red wine at your favorite fine dining establishment instead of whining at Starbucks to your girlfriends, you will be glad you did!

About the author:  Catherine Behan, @LOALoveCoach helps successful manifesters harness the Law of Attraction and finally draw in exactly the love they want. Http://SoulMateSavvy.com

First of all, seeing as you have access to the internet, there are a couple of cool interviews that came out this week online.

“The Magic of Wealth Creation” is the cover story for the new, Fall 2008 issue of WE Magazine. You can read it online, page 9 of the magazine. Loral Langemeier’s picture is on the cover.

The next story, “Are You and Money on the Rocks?” appeared on Friday’s Carrie and Danielle blog.

Then I go live with these interviews:

This Wednesday I’ll be interviewed on “The Coaching Show” with Christopher McCauliffe. This is internet talk radio, so you can catch it any where in the world.

On Friday I’m being interviewed by The Law of Attraction Network for Women. I just had to laugh when I saw the site. Who have they interviewed before me? Billionaire Bill Bartman, bestseller Byron Katie, the cast of The Secret, and on and on. Loral Langemeier (the “Millionaire Maker” and The Secret) and I seem to be showing up together everywhere!

thou shalt not hear, see, nor speak any negative vibrations

So there’s this movie that purports to share the biggest secret of the ages, carefully hidden until now, blah blah blah. Don’t get me wrong–this is an immensely uplifting, feel good movie. It has value. And it’s also full of crap. What exactly is their “secret”? It’s not like Think and Grow Rich or The Power of Positive Thinking, or The Law of Attraction have been kept hidden by some cabal of powerful business men. None of this is new, and none of it’s a secret. In fact these are the titles of immensely popular and influential books over the last century.

So what’s the secret?

Esther Hicks found hers and teaches through the voice of Abraham. Wayne Dyer found his and he teaches the Power of Intention. Byron Katie found hers and teaches The Work. I found mine, and I teach Financial Alchemy.

But even these aren’t the secret.

Cause you can do everything “right”–the mantras, the meditations, the visioning, the vibrations, the positive thinking–and not see a change in your circumstances. You’re still waiting for that abundance and prosperity you’ve been promised. Give yourself a break. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re not less worthy. There’s nothing wrong with your vision board. You’re just where you are. Right now. We all take a turn in that dark night of the soul.

“Be a light unto yourself,” the Buddha taught. Take all these teachings in, and take them all with a grain of salt. There’s an old Irish adage that says you have to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather is. Nobody else’s law is your law, not even the Law of Attraction.

I believe in a strong Tendency of Attraction. Don’t get me wrong–I’m all about attraction. I think about something and a few days later it shows up. But a law of attraction? Like always attracts like? Not really:

Twenty four years ago, I was in rapturous love for the first time. I was getting straight A’s and awards in high school. And I had just come home from my first trip to Europe. It was a very high vibration time. Until I was hit by a car, went into a coma, and came out with a serious brain injury that destroyed my life for a few years. I had to let go of everything I knew about spirituality at that time just to survive. In this instance, at least, like did not attract like.

While I may quibble with the Law of Attraction, I choose to believe in a Law of the Highest Good: everything happens for the highest good. Everything. You just have to survive it first.

So what really is “the secret”?

Sure, there’s more and more evidence of a connection between mind and matter. There’s a connection between you and the universe itself. “As above so below” is the first law of Alchemy. How you access and express those connections is unique to you. You have to find it yourself.

What you discover will probably look A LOT like what other people have been saying for the last 10,000 years, but it’s different when it comes from you.

Other stuff will look very different and may be even more important. It’s your contribution. In fact this may be what you’re here to teach so others can discover their own secret.

Every personal discovery changes history forever.

We all have to reinvent the wheel at some level for ourselves. I cannot presume to have your answers, only suggestions. The finger the teacher points at the moon is not the moon itself. That’s the only “law” there is.