Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds. ~ William Shakespeare

First the science of appreciation: John M. Gottman, PhD, the country’s foremost relationship expert, found that what set apart marriages that succeeded (as opposed to the 67% of first marriages that ended in divorce) was a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. He found that even the smallest gestures of appreciation counted—a smile, a pat, a “thank you.” This magic ratio isn’t confined to marriage. The same principle applies to all relationships.*

Here’s my favorite tool for injecting some quick positive energy: Appreciation Loops. You can use them any time you like, in any relationship, without dependence on the moods or actions of your partner. You can feel a shift in the dynamic immediately.

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Mimi Quick

It’s ALL about relationship!  (Just ask Mimi.)

Your relationship dynamic with money usually parallels other relationships in your life–the wounds of childhood, broken hearts, every hurt or betrayal or feeling of being unsafe goes into who become in relationship to the world… and to money.  The happy news is that when people transform their mean, scary, witholding Money Monster into that Money Honey-person who loves you and admires you and demands your self-respect… your other relationships change too!
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ElinAnna Bjarnadottir is in training to be a Financial Alchemy Coach

Women are still brought up with the myth that someone else will take care of us. That someone else is better equipped to take care of us than we are. It is interesting that women are brought up to take care of children but not considered able to take care of themselves financially. Women are considered better in relationships. They are the relationship masters. In the relationship that is going to be the longest relationship in their lives, they claim ignorance. Many behave as they are and cannot be good at that relationship. And that is despite the fact this relationship will dictate how they live their life. I am talking about the relationship with money.

Step 1: Acknowledge that you are enough.

You don’t need anyone else to rescue you; you can rescue yourself. By accepting responsibility for your own life you take back the power that you may have given to someone else. That power was always yours. You know yourself best. You know your dreams, longings, desires and needs. Whatever you choose to do you will live with the results, for better or for worse. It is the power to make things happen. To take risks. You are the one that is gong to live with the results, not the other person. When it comes down to it, you got what it takes to make the change in your life; you know what you need.

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