I’ve been getting pretty annoyed with this whole campaign to aim low in love. If you aim for less than you want, you just might get it, and that’s not a good thing…

There’s nothing more attractive to what you want, especially in realms of romance and love, than feeling good about yourself. And nothing kills your sense of self worth faster than settling for what doesn’t make you happy.

There’s a nasty little trend going around the love advice community, telling women (and men) that they should lower their standards, that they’re wrong to hold out for that special someone they admire, respect, and desire. Can you imagine? In fact there’s a best selling book out there that argues women should settle for whoever will take them. This is a perfect formula for misery. (No wonder there are so many unhappy marriages out there!)

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Everybody talks about the Law of Attraction. Attract Money. Manifest wealth. Blah blah blah blah blah. You can chant and vibrate all you like, but good luck becoming a money magnet when money finds you repulsive.

Got too much cash?  Here are five easy things you can do TODAY to repel money faster than you can say Fannie Mae and AIG:



1) LET PEOPLE OWE YOU MONEY

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One of the big distinctions between Financial Alchemy
and all those other “Law of Attraction” programs is we
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I keep running across people who hear me try to describe Financial Alchemy, and they think I’m a Law of Attraction coach. Noooo! Unless, perhaps, you took your LOA to a Barry White concert.

Financial Alchemy’s magic is activated differently. Here’s a cheat sheet of easy distinctions that stop people in their tracks:

1) While magical attraction happens all the time with Financial Alchemy, it’s NOT about what you attract. It’s not about what you can get from the universe.

2) Financial Alchemy is about romance. How good a lover are you, baby? We’re talking that generosity of spirit that comes with being head over heels in romantic love for another human being. “How can I make you happy, you beautiful, loveable man (or woman), just because I love you for you, whether you’re money or not, and making you happy gives me joy?”

3) But here’s the key: it’s not going to work while there’s a trace of that monster who has persecuted you in the past, either through financial troubles or any other kind of abuse that lowered your self-worth or feellings of safety in the world. This is what I call the Money Monster. You do NOT want to make your monster happy! You want to ANNIHILATE him! No fuffy white light and dolphins there, baby.

4) Thinking good thoughts and raising your vibrations aren’t enough for a total and radical transformation.

5) Your Money is another person. You don’t need to come up with the answers or know your next step. Just ask him (or her). They’ll tell you.

6) Your Money Honey is hot and personal and loves YOU more than anyone else in the world.

7) Yeah, there’s some overlap with the “Law” of Attraction: feeling good is more attractive than feeling bad. But there’s a realness to a relationship with a human-like “Money Honey” that LOA misses. You get to fight, gripe, yell, and want to rip your Money Honey’s heart out at times. You won’t be punished. Those fights are actually GOOD for the relationship. They shake you out of complacency and take the relationship to a whole new level.

And the make up sex is fabulous.

I shouldn’t be writing this. Affirmations are such big business for my friends and colleagues and the people who hire me. And affirmations are stupid.

Why?

When you can’t get (or leave) a job, or pay your mortgage, or find a date… chanting to yourself, “I’m a millionaire,” isn’t going to solve your problems.

Don’t get me wrong. I LIKE affirmations. I think they’re useful. I have a few in my book. I’m the kind of girl who makes things happen by thinking, “I want that.” But I do a lot of inner work to make that possible.

Affirmations are like putting pretty make-up on a canker sore: it doesn’t cover the problem.

I’m a little edgier than my Law of Attraction coach friends. They say, “Change the way you feel. Be grateful. Visualize what you want.”

When I have my first session with a client, I say, “Go for the negative thoughts! Let’s really find out what’s there.” Not just the stuff you know you think about money/love/yourself (cause really, it all ends up affecting how you feel about yourself, doesn’t it?), but the stuff you had NO IDEA you thought or believed. That’s where the magick resides: that “Oh my god I never made that connection before!” stuff that you feel down to your toes and beyond.

This is Alchemy. We create a POLARITY that acts like a slingshot that propels you from one world to the next. THERE’S NO MAGICK IN NEUTRALITY.

When we bring all that to light and exorcise your Money Monster with Financial Alchemy, that’s when we can move into love, gratitude and vision and have them mean something.

If you have some cancerous inner dynamic that is feeding on your personal power, your self esteem, your relationships and your business—this is what a bad relationship with Money will do—the last thing you need is an aspirin. Don’t “feel better” without correcting the underlying cause. You may take a couple steps forward, then find yourself back in the ER. That’s where affirmations fall short: they don’t address the underlying cause.

It’s time to open you up and suck out the poison! When your relationship with Money (which ALWAYS affects your relationships with family, partners, self-worth and empowerment) transmutes to a deep, committed, deliriously happy marriage, then any affirmation dressing you put on top of it will be magical.

I like to use the snake venom metaphor: suck out the venom BEFORE you put on the band aid (the affirmation). Think of what happens when put the band aid on before you remove the poison… the poison can’t release, and it goes deeper and deeper into your blood stream. You can watch a black line of poisoned blood creeping from the site of the wound to your heart itself, where it will kill you.

Affirmations are great. They’re also useless, worthless, pathetic and worse if that’s as far as you go. It’s nice and safe (and lazy) to think that happy thoughts are all the universe wants of you to reach your goals. Frankly I don’t know how high you can “vibrate” if you’re carrying a lead weight of unacknowledged rage, shame, fear and hurt behind hind the velvet curtain of your conscious mind.

There’s a big difference between “I want to believe this” and “I DO believe this!” You have to do the real work. I don’t think a inner change has to take a long time. In fact if you haven’t experienced a PROFOUND shift in your very first session, you have the wrong coach! But you have to do the work and really want a change. That’s how you make an affirmation mean something: you are affirming the change that has already happened.

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I love and believe in all this vision board/intention setting/beliefs change your reality filter stuff. And there’s a big blind spot in all of this.

I call this the Tyranny of Positive Thinking, or the Lie of Attraction. There’s a promise being made: “If you think good things, good things happen. If something bad happened, it’s because you had a negative thought.” I reject this blame-the-victim equation. Raising your vibration and setting your intentions are not insurance against tragedy.

Imagination–positive or negative–is hugely important in manifestion. I believe that 100%. And sometimes stuff happens (or doesn’t happen) anyway. I come across so much pain in people who are visualizing, meditating, tithing (and all the other stuff that should be manifesting them wealth and love and abundance and prosperity), and they aren’t seeing results. They blame themselves. Even their positive-thinking friends may be blaming them.

My personal reframe is a belief that when there is delay or tragedy in my life, my soul has made a decision that there is something precious in the experience that serves my true purpose. Some how. If I can survive it. (There have been times when that was an issue.)

I don’t think it’s helpful to outlaw negative feelings and thoughts. The last thing anyone needs is to feel guilty, angry or scared of feeling bad! Appreciate the wisdom of the shadow (to sound all Debbie Ford-y). It has something to teach you, and until you listen it will just come back louder. What if every obstacle, setback and negative thought existed only to move you forward to your goal?

So I would like us to utilize visualization and manifestation with a LIGHT TOUCH. We are generally more creative when we are optimistic, and that’s a good reason to think positive. Visualization helps us rehearse for success, and that makes success easier to manifest. I think there is magic to intention and requests to the universe. This is a part of my daily and weekly practice.

And there are no guarantees. IT’S A GAME. Set your intention and see what happens. I find the lighter the attachment, the quicker the results. As the Universe sees fit…