I was coaching the members of my Financial Alchemy Academy yesterday.

One of my members is going a major life transition, and she was judging herself for her naturally occuring feelings of grief and unhappiness.

Somewhere along the way, in all her years of personal development, she picked up the message (like most of us do), that she was supposed to be happy all the time. No matter what.

There was something wrong with her for being human…

Haven’t we all felt this way?

I call this the Tyranny of Positive Thinking.

Is positive thinking the answer? Not always.

Not all valid perspectives are happy perspectives.

I believe that when tragedy strikes we need to do EVERYTHING we can to heal and get better…  Sometimes we have to fight for happiness, or to simply survive those really hard times.

Healing takes time. And if we want to help our friends and clients, we MUST respect the life cycle of grief, even if it takes years.

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