Morgana and Money after the third date
Why is imagining Money as a hot, sexy, super lover, so powerful? (We’re talking windfalls of hundreds, thousands, even tens of thousands of dollars within hours of creating a new relationship). Making Money a best friend or doting grandparent or faerie or Oprah just doesn’t cut it…
Here’s the latest “How to become a Money Magnet” question to come in for Financial Alchemy: do you need to believe it for it to work?
I decided to post my response on Youtube (hence the introduction for newbies) and here. Comments anyone?
Your financial situation is a direct reflection of your relationship with money… make it a romance with Financial Alchemy.
It happens all the time. I get that thought, “I want (what that other person has)! Why don’t I have that?”
Let me give you some background:
In 2007 a friend of mine was being interviewed on ABC-TV. I immediately went into envy mode. I whined to myself, “I want to do that!”
The next morning I got a call: one of their guests had a last minute conflict, and I ended up taking their place on the interview.
But really, this happens ALL THE TIME. I’m thinking about why this works… (more…)
The fabulous thing about my Relationship with Money work is that it constantly evolves.
Any trap, pit, or problem that could cause a client trouble has come up or it will… and the process gains a new nuance every time.
One concern I’ve seen popping up in the last few months is around the idea of “What? Now I have another person to please? Ewwww!” That’s NOT how this works! And that’s why I was so glad to see this question come in:
“I have a question I’ve been trying to get my head around. If my “money
honey” [new personified relationship with money] withdrew every time
I didn’t listen to her needs, wants and desires, then I would find myself in a
relationship with a very fickle and demanding, controlling person…. NOT what
I would want in real life (or I guess for my Money Honey). What am I
missing?” Gary
Bravo Gary for naming the problem! What you’re missing is NEW relationship with money!
“Fickle, demanding, and controlling” are spot-on descriptions of a Money Monster. In fact, and I’ll go way out on a limb here… these may also be descriptions of YOU in your relationship with money! Is it possible that you’re being fickle, demanding and controlling when you ignore and disregard your money?
What’s missing here is LOVE, TRUST, ROMANCE… and an understanding of your power in this relationship. The ball is always in your court. YOU drive the relationship.
I keep running across people who hear me try to describe Financial Alchemy, and they think I’m a Law of Attraction coach. Noooo! Unless, perhaps, you took your LOA to a Barry White concert.
Financial Alchemy’s magic is activated differently. Here’s a cheat sheet of easy distinctions that stop people in their tracks:
1) While magical attraction happens all the time with Financial Alchemy, it’s NOT about what you attract. It’s not about what you can get from the universe.
2) Financial Alchemy is about romance. How good a lover are you, baby? We’re talking that generosity of spirit that comes with being head over heels in romantic love for another human being. “How can I make you happy, you beautiful, loveable man (or woman), just because I love you for you, whether you’re money or not, and making you happy gives me joy?”
3) But here’s the key: it’s not going to work while there’s a trace of that monster who has persecuted you in the past, either through financial troubles or any other kind of abuse that lowered your self-worth or feellings of safety in the world. This is what I call the Money Monster. You do NOT want to make your monster happy! You want to ANNIHILATE him! No fuffy white light and dolphins there, baby.
4) Thinking good thoughts and raising your vibrations aren’t enough for a total and radical transformation.
5) Your Money is another person. You don’t need to come up with the answers or know your next step. Just ask him (or her). They’ll tell you.
6) Your Money Honey is hot and personal and loves YOU more than anyone else in the world.
7) Yeah, there’s some overlap with the “Law” of Attraction: feeling good is more attractive than feeling bad. But there’s a realness to a relationship with a human-like “Money Honey” that LOA misses. You get to fight, gripe, yell, and want to rip your Money Honey’s heart out at times. You won’t be punished. Those fights are actually GOOD for the relationship. They shake you out of complacency and take the relationship to a whole new level.
And the make up sex is fabulous.