Financial Alchemy Coach Sarah Hoskin Clymer

Sarah: Money has been the biggest bane of my life. It was always the thing that I was working on as an adult. I tried to figure it out and affirm my way through it. You name it; I’ve done different things to get to what was at the cause of having so much struggle and pain around money.

Financial Alchemy came to me. It was one of those impulse things. I got on the website, ordered the products, then said, “What am I doing? I’m spending money. I can’t be spending money. This is crazy.” I knew it was right somehow, so I stuck with it.

That was just under a year ago. It was really out of doing a coaching session with you that I got to change my relationship with money. That allowed me to show up differently in the relationship. I finally understood that I could work myself for the next bazillion years, but as long as my relationship with money was the same, I couldn’t show up any differently.

No matter what I did, no matter how many affirmations I said, and no matter how many beliefs I got in touch with and “tried” to change, it was still the same basic relationship.

It was an abusive relationship with money. Money was horrible to me. It was demeaning and so arrogant. All I knew how to do in the face of that kind of energy was cower. It was no wonder I avoided money. I didn’t want to get anywhere close to it. It was terrible energy to be around.

You went through the different kinds of money. I was also a spender. As soon as it came in, I’d spend it. That was a way of getting rid of it and avoiding it, too. To actually have money meant I had to be responsible and manage it. I thought, “No.” I would send it right back out.

When I finally got to change the relationship I had been living in and literally get rid of the old relationship to bring in a new one, all of a sudden, not just money changed, but my life began to change. It was maybe because money was at the core of so many of my struggles.

I think it’s available for anybody. Money is such a huge part of our lives, no matter what. We all have to deal with money. To actually get to change that relationship, and have it become a loving, empowering, welcoming, safe relationship, changed the platform that I’d been standing on all those years.

Morgana: How did money connect with the other areas of your life?

Sarah: I really believe that because it was so core and central for me that it was like it had a thread or hook in every area. I could be doing something that would seem unrelated, but as soon as money came into the conversation, I would shrink back down. I’d grow small and go unconscious. I’d forget what I was doing or just back out of the game altogether.

It happened in so many places. Money was the biggest, most menacing and critical voice inside of me. It was my biggest gremlin.

Morgana: I’m so glad you brought that up. It isn’t just about the money. People who hear us talk about Financial Alchemy think that all we coach about is the money. That’s just the entryway.

Sarah: It’s the door in.

Morgana: It is that punishing, abusive voice that hurts how you feel about yourself.

Sarah: It then affects every area of your life. When you don’t have money to come back to and rely on, and you don’t feel in control or on top of it, everything crumbles. It was at least like that for me.

When I created this new relationship, it literally just started to ripple out, and one thing lead to another. I became involved with the work of Financial Alchemy then thought, “I could be a coach in this? Sign me up!” That was another one of those impulsive moves.

Then that was like I thought, “If I’m going to be a Financial Alchemy coach, I’d better make sure all my coaching skills are really solid.” That led me to seek out training as a co-active coach. One thing has lead to another.

I’m certified as a co-active coach. I’m certified as a Financial Alchemy coach. I have clients. I’m advancing in my coaching right now. I’m having so much fun. I’m working with people. I’m getting to do what I’ve always wanted to do. It was with Financial Alchemy that I actually took the steps to do it.

Morgana: People come to me and have an idea of their money. They listen to the teleclass and say, “My new money is this,” but it’s still intellectual.

Sarah: It can’t be intellectual. It has to be from that deep place within.

Morgana: You’ve both been a client and gone through my coach training. What did you learn?

Sarah: I did it all myself before having coaching because that’s what I do. I try it on. What I’ve experienced in both being coached and becoming a coach is the richness and depth a client can go to with a coach.

I want to share a story about one of my clients. When we were going into her financial background, what showed up in the session is that her father committed suicide because of his relationship to money.

That was heavy stuff. I can even feel it in my voice as I speak. The pain was so present in her family of origin. She intellectually understood it. Together as coach and client, a truth got to be revealed like it had never been revealed.

Morgana: Her money was a murderer. If you think about it, her money killed her father.

Sarah: Yet we forget that we don’t have to be in that relationship. We stay in this relationship even though it’s so detrimental for us. When we opened that up and created something new for her, her voice and her whole being lightened up. A whole sparkly clear, fun and dancing energy came in for her.

Morgana: Did you see the movie “The Secret”?

Sarah: Yes.

Morgana: How is that different from just having a positive attitude and a good feeling about money from time to time?

Sarah: In my experience, until you get to the core of it, you’re just putting Band-Aids on the situation.

There’s the analogy that when you have a glass of water and put dark ink in it, it becomes really dark. If you keep putting water in to flush out the ink, it becomes clear again.

This is a much more direct way into what’s really going on for someone. You can release that so much more quickly. Why spend years pouring water in to clear it out when you can go in and get to the heart and soul of it?

Morgana: It’s like digging out the poison instead of putting a Band-Aid on the poison, which only keeps it in.

Sarah: For me it did. I could say all the affirmations in the world, but when my relationship was still such a scary, abusive and horrible relationship, I couldn’t show up any differently within that. I had to get out of that relationship and create a new one. Now all the affirmations are flourishing.

Morgana: That’s because they’re true. We went back. We created your first new relationship with money. About six months later, it wasn’t working for you anymore. What happened?

Sarah: It lost its juice, but I didn’t lose my faith in the process. I knew I had to go back in, just like you were saying about Mercury retrograde. If it’s not working, we have a choice. We get to go back in and recreate.

I did it again, and I got this really nice, little-old-man kind of energy. He was really sweet. He was just a nice old man, but no juice.

Then I went back in and created something that had juice, zest, fun and energy behind it. I felt myself sitting up and saying, “Oh, yes! I like this money! Not only do I like him, but I know he really loves me. He wants to see the best in me come forth.” If I could go back to a moment, it was that moment.

FYI: The full transcript and mp3 for this teleclass, as well as the other teleclasses in the Financial Alchemy series, and my other best selling Financial Alchemy products, is now available in my new “Starter Pack”  for those who aren’t ready to invest in coaching but want to get started, and those who have already coached and want to take it deeper still.  Look at what you get at www.secretsofamoneymagnet.com.

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Your current financial situation is a direct reflection of your inner relationship with Money. If you don’t like your finances, something needs to change in your relationship. This is where Alchemy comes in.

Alchemy is the art of transformation. With roots in ancient Egypt and classical Greece, Alchemy comes from a time when there was no distinction between science and magic. The mysteries of matter and consciousness were inextricably linked (as they are again, in today’s quantum physics). These ancient studies gave birth to modern medicine, psychology, chemistry, and even Sir Isaac Newton’s work on gravity.

The ultimate pursuit of Alchemy was the “Philosophers’ Stone,” a substance believed to turn worthless metals into gold. While Alchemists through the ages slaved in the laboratory, their metalwork concealed a spiritual process, a Philosophers’ Stone which had to be kept hidden from the Church: this was the process of inner transformation. Two principles are involved here: 1) turning lead into gold was an outer demonstration of inner transformation, and 2) the seed of the solution (the gold) was hidden in the problem (the lead).

I invite you to use this chapter to discover your own Philosophers’ Stone—your key to wealth and inner transformation—hidden in your relationship with Money.

Before we proceed, let’s review some guidelines I adapted from Alchemist tradition:

Rule #1: As it is above, so it is below.
What shows up in your head is going to show up in your life. This chapter will be using fundamental Relationship Coaching skills to help you transform your relationship with money from a dead seed into a flowering garden. A seed comes to life as a living, thriving, fruit-flowering plant…in the right environment. So, too, your own prosperity. Your potential for financial abundance is there, waiting for the necessary environment within you. Your relationship with money is like the soil that feeds or starves your economic growth. As long as you have hidden beliefs that cause you to unconsciously repel money, perhaps “protect” yourself from wealth, your garden will not grow.

Rule #2: There is no scarcity.
A wealthy client once explained to me how he had overcome poverty. “The amount of money out there in play every day is limitless, beyond our comprehension. Money is everywhere,“ he explained. And it’s available in proportion to “how big your funnel is to take it in”. He had learned to tap into the Source. This relationship supported him.

Rule #3: Consciousness gives you choice.
I assert even a small change in your relationship consciousness can have a huge impact on your material life. You get what you choose, but first you need to know what you’re choosing.

How do I know this? I experienced this transformation myself.

My story:
For years I was struggling as a life coach. I had trouble attracting clients who would pay the fee I wanted. I found myself avoiding discussions of money as long as I could. The whole subject embarrassed me, and my discomfort translated into making clients uncomfortable too. I was “doing” all the right marketing things–networking, newsletters, sample sessions–and getting nowhere. I was not making a “grown-up” living.

What was in my way, I wondered? My coach and I took a look at my relationship with Money. What were my stories about Money? What is this entity I’m in relationship with? What’s going on with this relationship?

Two discoveries popped out: Money didn’t feel safe or reliable, and Money caused separation. (My family would swing between being rich and poor over and over again, and Money was a “reason” for family members not to talk to each other for decades.) If my experience of Money were given personhood, he’d look like a tall, scary, dirty Biker who caused fights at parties. This is the kind of guy I’d be watching carefully, always making sure to keep a safe distance. No wonder I wasn’t bringing Money into my life!

This was not the relationship with Money I wanted to have. (And it wasn’t the relationship I wanted to model for my clients either.) So I created a new paradigm. I fired the Biker persona and put a tall, dark, handsome and romantic suitor in his place. He wore tails and carried a bouquet of red flowers. He wanted to woo me. Can you imagine what it would be like to be wooed by Money? I related to him in a whole new way. This was the guy I wanted to have a relationship with. He loved me. I would do anything to make him happy.

I asked my new Money what he wanted from me so he could stay with me.

Money responded, “Appreciate me. Love me. Stop treating me like a monster.”

I immediately saw how I had been treating him like a monster every time I hesitated to state my fee or didn’t demand payment. My behavior changed immediately. Over the next week four people called me out of the blue to hire me as their coach. I could feel my mouth wanting to move in the familiar patterns that would talk them out of the sale. I had to literally bite my tongue and shut up and let them hire me. You don’t say no to gifts from your beloved.

Whenever I received a check, signed a new client, came across some unexpected income, I graciously thanked Money for the gift. I wasn’t just thanking an abstract concept of abundance—I was thanking a person who was real to me. And this version of Money was valued and invited into my life.

From then on my business and income kept growing. Within six months I had accrued such a waiting list of clients that I had to add group coaching to my services. I didn’t have to look for my new clients; they were finding me. And all I had changed was my inner dialogue with money.

Now it’s your turn:
If you want to improve your financial situation, you must first uncover the negative beliefs that shaped your relationship with Money. Get out some paper and respond to these questions. (Writing creates clarity and speeds your change.)

• What negative things have you heard about money?
• What are some of the negative ways money has shown up in your life and in the lives of those around you.
• What beliefs get between you and prosperity?
• Dig deeper and deeper. You may hit several blank spots before you find the deepest beliefs that have truly driven your relationship with money.

Give Money personhood in relationship to you. If these darkest experiences of money were a person, what would your version of this Money “person” be like?

Make Money real. Who is this Money monster? Is it male or female? Tall or short? How is Money dressed? How do you feel about this Money?

How does Money feel about you?

Can you imagine that they way you relate to this Money villain could be impacting the way money is showing up in your life?

End that relationship, baby!

Create a new relationship with Money. What kind of Money person could you open your heart to? Is this a person who lights you up—who you’d want a relationship with even if he weren’t Money?

Negotiate with this new Money:
What does your new Money want from you to make this relationship better? What action are you going to take to demonstrate to Money that you take his request seriously? Make this new relationship real.

Money is like any other relationship; it comes where it’s invited and appreciated. It rarely comes when it is chased. It can be your partner if you listen to it. The more you care for this relationship, the more money you will attract. Here are three final tips:

1) Appreciate money! When a penny shows up on the sidewalk, thank Money for the gift. Don’t worry about denomination; appreciate everything. Think of how good you feel when you are valued for even a small gesture. It’s the same for Money. Every time you practice receiving and appreciating, you train the universe to send you more. Show the universe what you value.

2) By now your capacity to receive is growing. You’ll notice other stuff creeps in to limit the flow through your funnel to abundance. This stuff may look like clutter, broken appliances, old e-mails, toxic people, time wasters or other energy drains. Clean house! Make space for what you want by having the courage to release what you don’t want. You teach the universe how you want to be treated with every choice you make. And nothing gets the universe’s attention like saying “No.” It’s your quickest ticket to miracles.

3) The most important place to make space for what you want is in your head. Clean out fear and pessimism. Plant love and trust instead. Your thoughts are your seeds, and you can grow flowers or weeds. What do you choose to grow?

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I shouldn’t be writing this. Affirmations are such big business for my friends and colleagues and the people who hire me. And affirmations are stupid.

Why?

When you can’t get (or leave) a job, or pay your mortgage, or find a date… chanting to yourself, “I’m a millionaire,” isn’t going to solve your problems.

Don’t get me wrong. I LIKE affirmations. I think they’re useful. I have a few in my book. I’m the kind of girl who makes things happen by thinking, “I want that.” But I do a lot of inner work to make that possible.

Affirmations are like putting pretty make-up on a canker sore: it doesn’t cover the problem.

I’m a little edgier than my Law of Attraction coach friends. They say, “Change the way you feel. Be grateful. Visualize what you want.”

When I have my first session with a client, I say, “Go for the negative thoughts! Let’s really find out what’s there.” Not just the stuff you know you think about money/love/yourself (cause really, it all ends up affecting how you feel about yourself, doesn’t it?), but the stuff you had NO IDEA you thought or believed. That’s where the magick resides: that “Oh my god I never made that connection before!” stuff that you feel down to your toes and beyond.

This is Alchemy. We create a POLARITY that acts like a slingshot that propels you from one world to the next. THERE’S NO MAGICK IN NEUTRALITY.

When we bring all that to light and exorcise your Money Monster with Financial Alchemy, that’s when we can move into love, gratitude and vision and have them mean something.

If you have some cancerous inner dynamic that is feeding on your personal power, your self esteem, your relationships and your business—this is what a bad relationship with Money will do—the last thing you need is an aspirin. Don’t “feel better” without correcting the underlying cause. You may take a couple steps forward, then find yourself back in the ER. That’s where affirmations fall short: they don’t address the underlying cause.

It’s time to open you up and suck out the poison! When your relationship with Money (which ALWAYS affects your relationships with family, partners, self-worth and empowerment) transmutes to a deep, committed, deliriously happy marriage, then any affirmation dressing you put on top of it will be magical.

I like to use the snake venom metaphor: suck out the venom BEFORE you put on the band aid (the affirmation). Think of what happens when put the band aid on before you remove the poison… the poison can’t release, and it goes deeper and deeper into your blood stream. You can watch a black line of poisoned blood creeping from the site of the wound to your heart itself, where it will kill you.

Affirmations are great. They’re also useless, worthless, pathetic and worse if that’s as far as you go. It’s nice and safe (and lazy) to think that happy thoughts are all the universe wants of you to reach your goals. Frankly I don’t know how high you can “vibrate” if you’re carrying a lead weight of unacknowledged rage, shame, fear and hurt behind hind the velvet curtain of your conscious mind.

There’s a big difference between “I want to believe this” and “I DO believe this!” You have to do the real work. I don’t think a inner change has to take a long time. In fact if you haven’t experienced a PROFOUND shift in your very first session, you have the wrong coach! But you have to do the work and really want a change. That’s how you make an affirmation mean something: you are affirming the change that has already happened.

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What is Financial Alchemy? Here’s what I shared in an interview Steven McCrory did with me for Magical Blend Magazine a while back:

Morgana: what is Financial Alchemy?
Financial Alchemy is the transformation of your relationship with money, and when your inner relationship with money changes, you see the outward results in your life.

What do you mean by relationship with money?
Your relationship with money is as real and dynamic as your relationship with another human being. If you were to say to your wife, “I don’t trust you. You’re going to leave me. You’re the reason I can’t do what I want with my life. You are responsible for war and suffering. You are the root of all evil,” how would that impact your relationship?

Not well.
What if she said those things about you?

I’d feel terrible.
Would you want to stick around someone who said those things?

Probably not.
Exactly. And those are things we say to money all the time. Why would money want to stick around? We push it away with beliefs we may not even know we have. If something is evil and keeps you from happiness, of course you’re going to protect yourself and push it away.

I understand the pushing it away part. Could you explain what you mean about money wanting to stick around?
This is the Alchemy part, the change in the relationship. I make money a person. Making money into a person you want to have a relationship—as opposed to this villain you have to have in your life—creates an emotional resonance instead of an intellectual exercise. And money can speak to you, tell you what you need to do to create a better relationship. It’s magical.

How did you come up with Financial Alchemy?
My own experience. Where else do things come from? For the longest time I struggled with money. As a coach I was helping people sell films and book television series and realize their dreams. But I was uncomfortable talking about my fees and asking to be paid. Can you imagine? Actually I find this dynamic is very common among caring, spiritual, service oriented people. Especially women. Before anything could change, I had to look at my internal relationship with money. I took a look at negative beliefs and experiences I hadn’t thought about in many years. Family members stopped talking to each other for decades because of money. I was embarrassed to live in a two-story home when my friends lived in apartments. I was afraid of being called spoiled, of not being liked. No wonder I pushed money away! I had formed this idea that money got in the way of love. Given a choice, I choose love! If my negative ideas about money became a person, I think my money person would be a big, scary, violent biker who didn’t bathe. Ick. That was my old money. This relationship had to go. So I fired the biker, and I thought about who I would like to have a relationship with. Who would I love to receive from? Meet my new money: a tall, dark, handsome man who wears an elegant tux, carries a bouquet of red roses, and woos me. He loves me, and I want to make this relationship work!

Sounds like me.
You’re married.

Yes I am. What happened when you changed your money guy?
That very month strangers started calling me out of the blue and hiring me. Within six months I had added thirty new clients and started a waiting list and group coaching to handle the overflow.

Wow. Do you have any other success stories?
Every time I do a seminar I get phone calls from attendees with miraculous stories of jobs and contracts and checks coming in that they didn’t expect. The biggest windfall that I heard of was a twenty thousand dollar contract. [note to readers: my current record is $87,000 within a few hours of our first session.] I’ve posted some of the letters on my website at www.howtobeamoneymagnet.com. My own income jumped from $900 to $5000 in one month. I was amazed.

Just by changing your relationship with money?
The key is to keep the conversation with money going. Money isn’t going to rescue you, but money will be your partner. How can you be a better partner to money? What actions can you take to make the relationship better? Action is what makes change real. Keep asking money how I can make the relationship better. I see money as a spiritual teacher who challenges us to be more creative and courageous than we were being. Money is just a metaphor for the universe itself. You can fight the universe or you can seek to learn from it and love it. Especially when it’s challenging. That’s money.

How is your approach different from other prosperity programs?
Nobody else has made money a person. It’s a lot easier to do what needs to be done when you’re in love. I clearly bring a lot more feminine energy to a subject that tends to be very masculine. I think we need both the masculine “doing” energy and the mystery of feminine magic. Abundance and prosperity come from unexpected places…

How do people get Financial Alchemy?
Go to www.howtobeamoneymagnet.com. You can sign up for the next seminar or order a CD. If you only get one thing, I recommend getting the workbook “Financial Alchemy: Twelve Months of Magic and Manifestation.” It’s a combination of Financial Alchemy and my secret system for manifesting all of my goals for the last three years. I use it every day. I know you’ve had great results with it too. Everything’s available at www.howtobeamoneymagnet.com. Remember, your abundance and prosperity serve the world!

This was my response to a coach who was struggling with a client who refused to connect with her emotions in coaching, a client who believed emotions belong in “therapy” instead.

Here’s what I wrote:

There are different styles and different opinions on what we define as “coaching”.

The International Coaches Federation says:
“Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives.

Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach’s job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.”

Your clients isn’t wrong in her expectations: ICF doesn’t say a word about emotions. She could probably find a coach out there who only works superficially (not a good coach). Her expectations don’t match your approach. She needs to be educated without making her wrong. I recommend you have a conversation with her about how you work, and why you use your approach.

Here’s an example. I received a great email response from a listener to one of my Financial Alchemy teleclasses. The writer wanted to know why she had to go “down the well” if she already knew her limiting beliefs.

The first step of Financial Alchemy coaching is to take a client down the rabbit hole, much farther than they knew was there. This may look counterintuitive–isn’t the point of the process to reconnect clients to the abundance and prosperity of the universe? We have to create POLARITY. The first step of Alchemy is “negridio,” the blackening. It works.

Stuff may show up here around child abuse or other hurts, just by digging into negative memories of money. It’s all related. (For those of you who are freaking out right now and thinking I’m overstepping my role as a coach, my clients are creative, resourceful, and whole. I’m very careful to tune into clients who are not well, and to steer them to something other than coaching. I’ve coached this process hundreds and hundreds of times, and I’ve never had a problem.)

Here’s my “why” for dragging my clients down the well in the beginning, insisting that they set aside every positive thought they have about Money: I’m firing up there neurology for change. Einstein said, “We cannot solve problems with the same consciousness which created them.” Information comes to us and new neurological connections are created during heightened states of emotional excitement. This is NLP talk for why we do process coaching.

Here’s a quick and easy HOW for getting a client out of her head. I do this a lot with professional women in traditionally masculine fields–lawyers, accountants, CPAs. I ask my client to stand with her feet spread as wide as her shoulders, and to bend her knees and rock at her pelvis, as if she were hula dancing. “Speak from your hips,” I’ll say.

There are a few reasons this works–I learned this from a coach who spoke at my local PCMA chapter. She has a book on “Four Energies.” I’m taking clients who are stuck in fire (Just do it!) energy into water (give and take) energy. There’s a whole area of somatic coaching that uses body wisdom.

I suspect your client wants more from coaching than she’s allowing herself, but the last thing you want to do is push when she resists.