I work with a lot of people who have been verbally abused. I notice that a lack of boundaries – usually learned in childhood – makes people vulnerable to the control tactics of others. Learning to set good healthy boundaries almost always results in more respectful treatment even from the most controlling people.

I’m also noticing that a common symptom of a person in a controlling (disrespecting the other’s boundaries) relationship is a radical decline in material success. Setting boundaries is all about valuing yourself.

I really enjoy and benefit from your financial alchemical approach! Thanks.

At the same time… I’ve learned to be very careful about making sure the other person is at least as invested in their change as I am, and I listen for what will empower the other person. Rescuing someone is a temporary fix and may backfire if they get rescued to much. The only difference between a savior and a villain is lighting.

On the other side, asking for help has saved my life. But help is just help… I’m still ultimately responsible for my life. We all rescue ourselves in the end.

We’re interconnected. We NEED each other. And pay attention to the energy. If you feel weak, depleted, insecure, exploited or needy, there’s probably a “no” that needs to be said.

Again, thanks. I was just talking to my husband about some of these points yesterday before reading your blog today hehe. I do love your/the Universe’s timing. Lately I have been feeling a lack “triumph” so to speak, or lack of feeling accomplished, so I’ve been having these moments of trying to discern what’s really going on. I’m in a post-international move adjustment phase, so the work has been figuring out what’s just a natural sense of displacement and culture shock vs. old patterns taking advantage of this new “scary” situation to try and reinforce themselves.

Food for thought all around Thanks for all you do. C