“Why Isn’t It Working?”

This was the most interesting question I received for last week’s “How to be a Money Magnet (and Client Magnet)” teleclass.

I’ll do a whole issue on this–because it’s so important–but for now I just want to toss out a few notes before I go to bed.

1) If it “isn’t working,” it (the alchemy) didn’t happen.
This is the tricky part. You can follow the steps, answer the questions, and come up with great ideas for your old and new Money. And nothing will change. Why?

The relationship didn’t really change. Your new Money is still a great idea, but the relationship with your new Money isn’t REAL. This isn’t your fault. You just need a coach.

2) You’re asking the wrong question.
Years ago when I first started coaching others on creating a new relationship with Money–and I was still figuring out how to make the process work every time– a client came to a coaching session saying to me, “Morgana. It’s been two weeks and I still haven’t received anything from my new Money.”

I asked my client, “What have you done to make your Money happy?”

“Nothing.”

Aaaaaaaaah. That client eventually started doubling her income every six months, and she learned how to manifest a good amount of wealth. But she had to shift her paradigm for the relationship from “What have you done for me lately, Money?” to “How can I make YOU feel happy, Money?”

3) Ask Money.
If you really have changed the relationship, and your Money Honey is as real and dear to you as the lover of your dreams, ask your Money what’s going on!

If you’ve listened to any teleclass or workshop I’ve given in the last two years, you know that I’m not always a happy camper in my relationship. I get frustrated, impatient, and down right pissy. If I have a complaint or a question, I bring it to my Money himself.

I’ve learned to say to Money, “I’m feeling anxious. What do you want me to do so I can feel less anxious?” Then I do whatever the heck he tells me to do.

Another tiff I have with Money is, “Look at all I’m doing to be a great relationship partner and show you how much I appreciate you and this is all I get?” (Can you imagine what kind of a wife I’ll make?) Money always grins and says, “It’s coming.” And when it comes, it’s bigger than anything I’ve known before.

I cannot stress enough that it all hinges on your relationship with Money. Clients who come to me usually have a pretty good concept of the whole transformation; and most of my clients have already done deep, soul searching work on themselves, their money issues, or both. NOBODY expects what they get when we do the process itself! This is what’s so much fun for me the coach: the shock. It’s a whole new world, and you KNOW “it’s” working the moment you arrive.

Are you a Wealthy Woman?

Have you read books, gone to workshops, done “prosperity work”, said affirmations, and worked on your issues with money?
Has anything changed…really changed?
Have you even gotten close to the crux of what was going on?
Are you a Wealthy Woman or are you still trying to “figure it out”?

In Morgana Rae’s Financial Alchemy workbook, Morgana says that the “area of your greatest pain may be the key to what you want the most.”

Is your relationship with money one of your areas of greatest pain?

For me, money was one of the most painful, challenging, and persistent issues in my life. My relationship with money has caused me shame, pain, disempowerment, and fear. I have felt like a scared and powerless, little girl who cowered and hid when anything with Money showed up in my life.

More than anything, I wanted to be a Wealthy Woman – a woman who is “wealthy” in every sense of the word (including being financially successful as well).

Yet my goal felt so far away, so unattainable –it felt like I couldn’t become that which I so deeply desired.

Can you relate to this?

What if your relationship with money can be the catalyst for becoming the most magnificent version of who you really, truly are – an empowered woman who lives a fulfilling and prosperous life that you love?

Do YOU want to become a WEALTHY WOMAN?!

Do you want to let go of being a little girl who feels scared about money and life and relationships and creating something powerful for yourself?

Do you want to become an empowered and confident woman who creates the life you want and that it comes to you easily and magically?

Yes?!

Yes!

Then let me share with you the diamonds, pearls of wisdom and gold nuggets that I have received along the way so that they can support and guide you as you choose to empower yourself and transform your life.

1. Create a new Relationship with Money.

• Create a new relationship with Money. Shall I repeat it again?!!! Create a new relationship with Money!

Your relationships are the garden from which you create your life. If all you have is weeds and rocks in your garden, then that is all you are going to get.

If your relationships are not working, change these relationships. Chances are (since you are on this website reading this) that your relationship with money is one of those challenging and painful areas. Once again, create a new and empowering relationship with money.

In fact, do more than that. Create a new relationship with money that is loving, positive, rewarding, fun, delicious, caring, reciprocal, safe…

How…?

• Receive masterful coaching by a certified Financial Alchemy coach who can assist you in creating and nurturing this new relationship.

Be sure to develop and nurture this new relationship – just like any relationship that lights you up. How? It’s actually quite simple:

1. Talk with your new Money daily – and take action! Just do it! For a week, a month – just see what happens.
2. Be grateful for everything that shows up in your life – give thanks, give thanks, give thanks.
3. With passion, excitement and happiness, affirm ”I LOVE MONEY & MONEY LOVES ME!” often, frequently and more!
4. Have fun with this enlivening relationship! Be a great relationship partner!

• Use the Financial Alchemy workbook. Use every page and let it support you to truly, deeply, powerfully create the life of your dreams. It is a wonderful resource.

• Receive ongoing coaching to keep your new relationship and your dreams and intentions alive and thriving!

2. Choose who and what you want to be.

With your new relationship with Money, you will become more empowered and clear about who you really are and what you really want – in all areas of your life -so make so new, empowering choices that reflect your personal growth and development.

• Become aware of what your life theme has been. How? Look at your life and see what has shown up. For years, the theme of my life had been “Poor Me – poor little girl.”

• Choose a new, empowering, engaging theme. Make it simple. Create a strong, clear image for yourself.

Allow this choice, this decision to be a WEALTHY WOMAN to call you into becoming who you really, truly, deeply are – easily, effortlessly and powerfully.

3. Clear and Create from Beauty

Next, you get to clear all the clutter, stuff and unnecessary baggage that lie between you and that vision of who you are becoming. This means you get to clear out and get rid of the garbage.

You can start either on the internal or the external level. It really doesn’t matter since each reflects the other. Work on them simultaneously – then you get the benefits of synergy from working on them both.

4. Be Impulsive!

Being impulsive means that when you are moved to do something… when that quiet little voice says, “Do this”…..YOU DO IT! No questions asked, no thoughts that think “Why…?” JUST DO IT. I took this on as an internal commitment about 6 months ago, and the results have been magical!

Don’t be attached to the results – sometimes when I get a nudge to get in touch with one person, a completely other person gets in touch with me and something magical happens for us!

This is you acting on your INTUITION – one of the most valuable tools you have as a WEALTHY WOMAN. In fact, I believe it is an essential tool and that you won’t be a WEALTHY WOMAN without it. And, we all have intuition…yes, we all do.

You just get to be impulsive…and act on those impulses without hesitation.

5. Use your life and its circumstances as a CATALYST and opportunity for change and growth.

Use your life – all of it – as fodder for growth and change. Nothing happens by accident and there are no coincidences. Life is a series of synchronicities to support you in aligning with your higher purpose and your most magnificent self.

If you lose your job, or your marriage, what opportunity is there for you to open up and receive the gifts? If you have particular challenges or issues, lean into them to glean the gold.

Our lives are all we have – so let’s use them. Every moment, every day is a gift where we get to create. So create! And sometimes, the best creations come out of the messiest, ugliest stuff. We can wallow in it, or we can create with it.

What’s your choice?

6. Create/Expand your CONTAINER.

Everything leading up to this has essentially been about you creating your container as a WEALTHY WOMAN. We have been creating the structures and practices that support you to embody being a WEALTHY WOMAN. It doesn’t do much good to be all of this if you cannot “contain” it. It will just leak out, leaving you where you were before.

I know that this may be a different way of looking at this, but it is really important.

As women, we are like the chalice, the cup that holds the energies of who we are. If there are leaks in it, or the chalice is too small, we would just spill over and leak out our energy. We would become depleted, tired, powerless.

To become cohered, beautiful, expanding containers for our divine, feminine, wealthy energy:

• Have strong boundaries. Say yes when you mean yes, and no when you mean no…and stick to it!
• Observe what depletes you and leaves you feeling tired, unfulfilled, out of balance and disconnected.
• Let go of (back to the Clearing and Creating from Beauty) or change the relationships with anything/anyone that depletes you
• Plug the leaks!
• Take really good care of yourself – go for walks; take a nap; sing; dance, do nothing
• Be grateful!
• Breathe!

Remember, it is not only your capacity for what you can do; it is also your capacity to receive!

7. Be a WEALTHY WOMAN NOW!

• Show up fully as a wealthy woman now, no matter what the circumstances. Feel it, believe it, dance it, paint it – whatever you need to do – do it! Be it now!

Stand tall, speak up, laugh loud, love loud!!

2008 coypright.

Read Sarah’s bio at www.abundanceandprosperity.com/sarah-clymer.

Financial Alchemy

This is the second half of my interview by Ann Sloan for the National Networker on how to network effectively to grow your business.

What are some of the ways and places in which you promote your work?

“Wow! Shall I count the ways?
1. My e-zine
2. Magazine articles
3. Blog articles
4. Facebook
5. Radio and television interviews
6. Magazine interviews
7. Public speaking
8. Taking classes ALL THE TIME.
9. Expos
10. Selfgrowth.com
11. Social Networking: Digg / Stumbleupon / Reditt / Twitter
12. Learning about SEO. Haven’t bought adwords yet.
13. Networking meetings ─ but not so much.
14. Free teleclasses.
15. Free e-book.
16. Joint ventures.
17. I had a publicist for two years.
18. Charm and humor.”
19. The best little business card in the world:
Red dress, red shoes, on my back with money and rose petals raining down on me. No photo-shop—that’s real cash, baby. Talk about a “Money” shot!”

Wow ─ thanks for sharing these dynamite photos! Now I’d like to ask: Whom does your network currently include? What is the size of your outreach?

“My outreach? I can only guess. I used to have a national magazine column. I’ve done around 100 radio interviews and been in about 70 magazines worldwide. Last year my Financial Alchemy book tour took me from Baja to Oslo, Norway, with Los Angeles, San Francisco, Seattle, New York City, and Maryland in between. I also have 3,500 people on my ezine list (not big, but loyal).

I have about 2,000 Facebook friends, and then those friends’ friends. (Social Networking is the BEST!) Also about 150 folks on Twitter. Then there’s 12,000 on the Coaches Training Institute forum. I haven’t kept track of Plaxo or LinkedIn friends. I get between 5,000 and 20,000 hits a month on my blog, http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com.

I’m also excited that my teleclasses always include people from the UK, Norway, Australia, and South Africa. It’s incredible. That recent interview of mine with UPI literally went around the planet.”

What has been the best about building a network: Positive experiences?
Benefits, expected and unexpected?

“Here’s the essence of it all: The real value of building a network is friendship.

Coaching can be lonely, so networking meetings and personal development classes get me out of my office, and I LOVE that. I see the same people over and over at different events, and it’s a joy to reconnect with them every time. I’ve developed some real friendships this way.

I joined a networking group in 2003 called Network for Empowering Women (N.E.W.) Entrepreneurs. (It disbanded a couple of years ago.) My first night there, it seemed like every woman was a coach. I made a decision that I probably wouldn’t get any clients there, but the women were so FABULOUS that I was going to join anyway. It was one of the best business decisions I made in my life ─ and I didn’t even know it at the time.”

See any down side to networking?

“Here’s where networking gets icky: when people want to meet for coffee to ‘find out more about what I do.’ (The implication being that they’ll tell me what they do and ask for referrals.) I don’t want to meet for coffee with a business agenda.

The same is true for online. I hate it when someone introduces themselves to sell me something. If we become good friends and you offer something I want, you better believe I’ll buy it from you.”

What challenges (if any) have you found in your networking experiences?

“It was really hard in the beginning, because I didn’t know how to articulate what I do (coaching) in a compelling way. Especially when I tried to sound ‘professional’, you could see the listener’s eyes glaze over. I was profoundly uninteresting. I got better when I started to bring in some magical, witchy elements: this resonated with more women than I expected. Of course this is L.A.”, she laughs.

Of course! I kind of miss that aspect of L.A.…

“The big shift in all this came from writing. When I wrote my article on ‘Creating a New Relationship with Money’, the response was overwhelmingly enthusiastic. I knew I was on to something. As I slowly got the courage to make that my focus (nobody likes to have a niche, and it’s only the starting point for what I do as a life and business coach), my business grew.”

What made the difference, you think?

“I found what the market wanted, and things started to take off.

I eventually hired an excellent publicist. It was a huge investment (more than my rent), but I can’t discount the payoff in terms of recognition and credibility. I think it’s an important step if you’re going to take your business seriously.”

Bottom line – What do you feel is really working well for you, your company?

“My newsletter and my blog. Build your list!!! Any time I want to make some money, I send out an email to my list. I offer an article (that I can then re-use in my blog or a book or allow other people to post all over the web and send traffic back to me) or a free teleclass, and I get an influx of business. I’m talking thousands and thousands of dollars of business. And I bribe, bribe, bribe people to join my list. You have to have a GREAT product (e-book, audio-class) that people WANT, and GIVE IT AWAY to snare subscribers.

This giving away a product will also relieve you of guilt for not giving your coaching service away for free.”

So coaching for free is not a good idea, you think?

“Never, never, never coach for free. This is the most challenging thing in the world, because you want to help everyone. (That’s why I offer so much free stuff—for many people, the free teleclass is all they need to get them started on the right path…)

Here’s why you should never coach for free: if you are a good enough coach, your client will get so much value from that one session that they won’t see the need to hire you. They’re satisfied. And that sucks. Give free consultations or strategy sessions, but don’t coach them. It’s a subtle but critical distinction.

Free coaching is deeply disrespectful of the value you worked so hard for, and invested so much money in training, to offer. Look at it this way: Car dealers don’t give cars away for free. You shouldn’t be giving away your high end product either.”

Besides networking, how else are you promoting your company? What do you view as the primary vehicle and what makes it more important than the others?

“I think I covered that. Dollar for dollar, and for time invested, virtual networking brings me the bulk of my business. When I look at the proportion of out of town, out of state, and overseas customers and clients, it’s HUGE. Also: Network on Facebook and Twitter! And of course, contribute to forums in your field. The payoff is amazing.”

What’s the achievement you’re most proud of at this time?

“Oh my god. I’m making a living doing what I love! How awesome is that? It took me ages, and a ton of tears, to figure out what worked for me. It was horrible. And now I find myself a leader in this industry. Amazing. A dream come true. This is why I train and mentor other coaches. I don’t want other people to hurt like I did.”

What are your plans and goals for the future; organizational, personal?

“I have a real passion for training, mentoring, and promoting a new generation of Financial Alchemy coaches, so they can succeed and help more people than I ever could on my own. And this way I can keep my focus on speaking, creating new projects, and doing fun stuff. It would also be nice to fall in love.”

Anything else you would like to add for our readers? Perhaps words of encouragement and / or inspiration?

“Here’s the heart of it all: Make friends, not customers. Be authentic! Don’t push your services. Focus on attracting. And Give yourself TIME to break through gravity and take off.

Thank you, Morgana, for this delightful time together! You’ve really inspired me ─ now I must dash off to envision and attract my own super-attractive Money Honey ASAP!

Ann Barczay Sloan, M.A.  is an author, editor, and creative writing coach who describes herself as a Story Alchemist. She serves as Featured Columnist  (“Especially for Women”) for TheNationalNetworker.com , a weekly on-line publication, where this article was first published. Author of the forthcoming book, How to Use the Pieces of a Broken Heart: Recipes for Rebirth,  Ann may be reached at annbsloan@gmail.com .

A week ago I had the pleasure to be interviewed by Ann Sloan for the National Networker. For anyone who’s curious about Financial Alchemy, the inner workings of my business, or even my struggles and insecurities (betcha didn’t know I had those, didya), read on…

How Hot is Your Relationship with Money?

“IF MONEY WERE A PERSON”, asks Morgana Rae, “what kind of person would reflect your current experience of Money?”   Is it an ugly, disappointing, elusive, even frightening presence in your life, one you dread and even avoid ─ or is it a highly attractive, loving, sexy and exciting entity who finds you powerfully attractive and is always eager to please you?

What an intriguing question!  Even more intriguing for me are the amazingly abundant (i.e., rich) results Morgana has achieved for her own business as well as her coaching clients through using this dynamic metaphor.  I’ve been eager to learn to more and have planned for months now to get an interview.  As you see, I have succeeded ─ so please read on!

Who is Morgana?

Morgana Rae is described as “The Coach with the Magic Touch” and the “Money Magic Queen”. It’s interesting to note that her mother named her after King Arthur’s sister, Morgana Le Fey (Morgana the Faerie), a priestess with magical healing powers.

Morgana’s web site, http://www.HowToBeAMoneyMagnet.com , provides this background information.

Morgana Rae, a certified Master Results Coach and mythologist trained in NLP, hypnosis, and co-active coaching, draws on these skills and 20 years in the entertainment industry to create fun, dynamic exercises that transform your life quickly – with stunning results. 

She owns Charmed Life Coaching, a successful life and business coaching company. Morgana guides clients to attract more than they chase, and to enjoy success without sacrificing their humanity.

As a leading expert on wealth creation, Morgana is a popular speaker and frequent television and radio guest. Morgana delivers keynote addresses and breakout sessions at expos and conferences from Los Angeles to Oslo. Her articles have been published in over 50 countries worldwide…  Her Financial Alchemy books, CDs, radio and television interviews, magazine articles and classes have impacted the lives of thousands of people worldwide.

And now, on with the interview!

At last, we are here now, ready to talk and share. I’m super-curious to hear what Morgana has to say!

So Morgana, how would you summarize what you do? What’s your “elevator speech”?

“I help people create a new relationship with Money as if Money were the hottest, sexiest, most romantic lover who wants to woo you, loves you more than anyone else in the world, and wants to stay with you if you’ll let him.

This strikes me as so delightful that I laugh in surprise.

So you suggest we create and envision our personal, hot, committed, ever-unfolding romance with a personalized “Money”? This is what you’ve named your Money Honey?

Precisely!  And this works for both genders, by the way. So if you’re a male, your Money Honey you’d create would be a gorgeous sexy female.

Very innovative!  Can you tell me what exactly makes what you do unique?

“Uh… unique?  You think I’m unique? (As I bat my eyes…)  Nooobody teaches what I teach. And the results I get would be unbelievable if I didn’t have the emails to support them.  (Day after last night’s teleclass as the success story emails are already coming in.)  And frankly, anyone who tries to do my coaching is going to have hit or miss results unless they trained with me.

My playful, sexy style don’t hurt neither!”

I definitely get that (I smile.) So ─ how would you describe the primary mission of what you do?  

“Let me give you my mission statement,” says Morgana. “It just popped into my head one day, ready made, while I was typing something else. So far I haven’t been able to improve upon it:

I write, teach and coach in order to evolve humanity, and to witness a whole world of empowered, enlightened, charmed living.

In addition, I feel called (mostly because my Money Honey told me) to give attention to empowering women economically. I think that’s the key to world change and peace.”

Please describe how you got started in all this, and how you arrived where you are currently. 

“Oy! I’m an overachiever. Let me tell you…  I was hit by a car, thrown into a coma, woke up with a serious head injury (unable to concentrate or remember things or sleep for a year and a half) and I STILL graduated as a National Merit Scholar and went on to a top college. And I was a fat, uncoordinated little girl who became a professional ballerina. Do I know how to accomplish stuff or what?”

That’s definitely impressive!

“Yeah… But I couldn’t make a living. Talk about a surprise. I choked when stating my fee or asking to be paid.  I realized had to change my relationship with Money, and overnight I had a bunch of clients paying me more than I had ever charged before (which, in hindsight, was pathetically low—but it was more than I had courage to charge at the time). 

Basically, here’s how it happened: When I changed my money monster (who’d terrorized me for many years) into my tall, dark, handsome Money Honey, and committed myself to being a loving relationship partner, I became VERY attractive to clients, and very good at graciously accepting their payment without embarrassment.” 

You felt uncomfortable asking for payment?

“I still have that moment of fear before I remember how handsome my Money Honey is. So ─ I charge for him.”  

Once again I have to smile at Morgana’s delightful metaphor. But I keep moving forward.

Which of your projects are you currently most passionate about?

“Training and licensing Financial Alchemy Coaches. This is the most ambitious, exciting, and gratifying thing I’ve ever done. These wonderful people are my protégés. I am determined to see them succeed beyond anything they’ve known. I teach, coach and mentor them. I even send them clients when I have too many. And I know they will make a bigger impact in the world than I could ever make by myself. This is my legacy and my project of love.”

How much of your work is focused specifically toward women?

“I’ve already touched on that a bit. My approach to Money really resonates with women. We love love.  We tend to be nurturers and people pleasers—which ironically is just the right formula to give away our gifts without getting paid.  I adore my guy clients, and I coach quite a few. But you have to admit my style is pretty feminine.”

So there’s a potential danger here?

“Yes!  Whether it’s from a feeling of unworthiness, or a fear of rejection or causing harm, or a guilt about taking money to help someone (I’m speaking from my own experience, ladies), we repel and protect ourselves from wealth. But…”

… You have a remedy?

“… if you make Money a person, we can turn all of our loving, nurturing superpowers towards making that relationship work AND feel good about valuing Money!”

Ann Barczay Sloan, M.A.  is an author, editor, and creative writing coach who describes herself as a Story Alchemist. She serves as Featured Columnist  (“Especially for Women”) for TheNationalNetworker.com , a weekly on-line publication, where this article was first published. Author of the forthcoming book, How to Use the Pieces of a Broken Heart: Recipes for Rebirth,  Ann may be reached at annbsloan@gmail.com .