“I am really intrigued by the idea of a new relationship with money, but I’m wondering if it will work for someone who doesn’t have an actual positive real-life guy to model it on? I know that the process is not an intellectual one, but when I think about trying to have a money honey I think I’m bringing in a lot of baggage from guys and men who have disappointed me in real life. What if I have no positive male archetypes to draw upon for my money honey?”
“How does one go about wanting to win a prize in a competition?
What should one do? I tried visualisation of accepting the keys and living in the house, having a positive mindset, asked the universe for assistance you name it….(not all at once) but I have yet to see result.
So how does one go about getting a positive result from the universe in this instance? I need and want to win a house.”
Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds. ~ William Shakespeare
First the science of appreciation: John M. Gottman, PhD, the country’s foremost relationship expert, found that what set apart marriages that succeeded (as opposed to the 67% of first marriages that ended in divorce) was a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. He found that even the smallest gestures of appreciation counted—a smile, a pat, a “thank you.” This magic ratio isn’t confined to marriage. The same principle applies to all relationships.*
Here’s my favorite tool for injecting some quick positive energy: Appreciation Loops. You can use them any time you like, in any relationship, without dependence on the moods or actions of your partner. You can feel a shift in the dynamic immediately.
There’s nothing more magnetic to what you desire, especially in realms of romance and love, than feeling good about yourself. And nothing kills your sense of self worth faster than settling for what doesn’t make you happy.
There’s a sick little trend going around the dating advice industry, telling women (and men) that they should lower their standards, that they’re wrong to hold out for that special someone they admire, respect, and desire.
Can you imagine? In fact there’s a best selling book out there that argues women should settle for whoever will take them. This is a perfect formula for misery. (No wonder there are so many unhappy marriages!)
Let’s not even go there. Before you step out on your first date, we want to supercharge your love magnet with easy, authentic, happy self-confidence. Nothing to prove and nothing to buy, and you’ll feel the difference immediately. Here’s the secret: Read the rest of this entry »
A reader sent in this awesome question: “Is it really possible to create a lasting change with my relationship to money? I’ve tried so many things but always go back to the same fearful thinking and immature behavior with money.”
The answer is yes, but it’s not automatic.
Cause it’s not enough to get married, say I love you, and be set for life, right?
There’s the day to day relationship stuff.
Same thing with your new relationship with money. Once you’ve changed your relationship,
that’s when the real work begins.
Gil Cates was my godfather. He was also a kind, warm, funny, wonderful human being.
He accomplished a lot (theater and movie director and producer; producer of the Academy Awards; Dean of the School for Theatre, Film and Television at UCLA; and artistic director of the Geffen Playhouse). He was also a great dad, a loving husband, and a best friend to many… including my dad, for the last 60 years.
After attending his memorial last night, I felt moved to share a few words of my own.
